How Interests Can Help Communication in Autism

There is this thing about writing.

Or type in today's technologically advanced world. I think it has to do with the fact that words help to communicate a person's thoughts, their feelings, their wishes.

CS Lewis once said, You can make anything by writing.

Indeed, you can write your fears away. We can calm ourselves by writing. And we can share our happiness by writing. Writing, typing, and swiping (for some!)......the use of words is such an important means of communication.

Lauren with Kevin and Helen (rip)

The little adventure reproduced in words by Lauren at 5 years old

Lauren always found it easier to write and type her thoughts. When she was younger, we would catch glimpses of her cheeky little character peering through when she got to write her messages to us by phone, always filled with a generous sprinkling of emoticons. 

Not the case when she has to talk. Her words are stilted, they take time to be formed, and most times come out with the tone that often gets misinterpreted. When asked, she would say that she finds it hard to bring the words in her head to her mouth.

Imagine how frustrating it is when you cannot understand a person. Imagine how much more frustrating when you cannot get others around you, the ones closest to you to understand you. It can make you scream out of frustration. Now you don't wonder why kids or teenagers with autism can throw such a tantrum. I would throw one mega tantrum myself!

Not being able to converse for a person with autism does not mean they do not want to communicate. They do. But we need to find ways that can help them express themselves. It is critical we help our kids to communicate, to express themselves.

How have some better known young friends with autism communicated. For Carly Fleischmann, it was typing on her computer. Naoki Higashida uses an alphabet grid to type out his words. For Temple Grandin, she has been blessed with the ability to both write and speak. These great examples have written poems, books, stories as part of expressing themselves. For some like Stephen Wiltshire, the famous English landscape artist, he was mute until age 5 because of autism. So he turned to drawing. He drew people, animals and through his drawings he found he had a knack for drawing buildings and landscapes.

The point is to find something - some call it a hobby, some say it is an interest or interests - where your child, with or without autism, enjoys. Something that can be constructive and which can help them express themselves. 

So with Lauren, her best friends today are her books. They are with her in every picture. They watch tv with us. Go shopping with the family and also sit near the dinner table. It is with her books that she finds solace. A place she can just be. You hear her laugh (like a cuckoo bird) when she's reading her fav books. And we're thankful she loves books because that is where she has learnt words. Many of them. They have in turn helped her communicate through her latest interest...writing scripts! I don't know where that will lead her to, but we're encouraging it. We've helped her set up her own blog to write her scripts. Let's see where that road leads us to!

Time and patience - Discover your child's inner interests.